Let’s be real. Marriage is not for the faint of heart. It’s beautiful, yes—but it can also feel like a battleground, a comedy show, and a spiritual boot camp, all rolled into one. You love this person deeply, but also sometimes want to lovingly throw a shoe in their general direction (in Jesus’ name, of course).

But here’s the unfiltered truth: no marriage will thrive without the presence of God. NONE. Not yours. Not mine. Not the cute couple who always posts matching Bible verse reels on Instagram. Not even Priscilla and Aquila. A marriage without God at the center is like a car without gas, it may look good, but it’s going nowhere fast.

1. Why Your Marriage Needs God

Culture tells us love is a feeling. The Word tells us love is a choice (Colossians 3:14). Culture says, “Do what makes you happy.” The Word says, “Lay down your life” (Ephesians 5:25). Culture tells wives to be boss babes who don’t need a man, and tells husbands to be emotionless providers who don’t need accountability. But the Word of God calls us to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ (Ephesians 5:21).

If the foundation of your marriage is not Christ, it will crack. And cracks become canyons. What begins as minor “differences” turn into distance. Silence replaces intimacy. Arguments replace agreement. And the enemy? Oh, he’s thrilled.

2. Stop Fighting Each Other. Start Fighting Together.

Your spouse is not your enemy. I’ll say it louder for the couples in the back, your spouse is not your enemy. The enemy is Satan, the deceiver, the one who’s been targeting marriages since Genesis 3.

You’ve got to stop swinging swords at each other and start standing back-to-back, swords up, in prayer. Because you are not wrestling against flesh and blood, but against spiritual forces of evil (Ephesians 6:12).

Want to change your marriage? Start praying like your marriage is under attack, because it is.

Prayers That Shake Heaven (and Hell)

1. “God, humble me.”

Before you start praying, “Lord, change this man,” or “Fix this woman,” start with this:
“Search me, God, and know my heart.” – Psalm 139:23

Marriage will expose your flesh like nothing else. It’s meant to sanctify you, not just satisfy you. The minute we shift from blaming to repenting, heaven moves.

Bold Prayer:
“God, show me where pride has crept in. Show me where selfishness has taken root. Uproot anything in me that is keeping love from flowing freely. Humble me, break me, transform me.”

2. “God, restore our unity.”

No more roommates. No more silent treatments. No more pretending everything’s okay when it’s not.

“How can two walk together unless they agree?” – Amos 3:3

Disunity in marriage invites chaos. But where there is unity, God commands His blessing (Psalm 133:1-3). Not suggests. Commands. That’s the kind of power you want in your marriage.

Bold Prayer:
“Lord, remove anything that divides us—offense, miscommunication, comparison, past wounds. Let Your Spirit be the glue that binds us together in love.”

3. “Holy Spirit, flood our home.”

This isn’t about religious rituals. This is about spiritual authority. If the Holy Spirit isn’t welcome in your home, something else will fill the vacancy—bitterness, lust, resentment, apathy. Don’t settle for a marriage that looks good online but is spiritually bankrupt.

“Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain.” – Psalm 127:1

Bold Prayer:
“Holy Spirit, invade our home. Let every room be filled with Your peace. Fill our conversations, our bedroom, our family rhythms. Let Your presence be so thick in this house that the enemy can’t breathe in here.”

Let’s Talk About Intimacy for a Second…

God created sex. The devil just perverted it. And married sex is holy, powerful, and yes—supposed to be enjoyable. But when emotional intimacy breaks, physical intimacy suffers. When prayer life is dead, desire dries up. And when the enemy gains a foothold, intimacy turns into insecurity.

Invite God into that part of your marriage too. Be bold enough to pray together about your intimacy, your connection, your communication. Watch the shame lift and freedom follow.

Scriptures to Speak Over Your Marriage

Speak these out loud, together if possible. Words have power.

• 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 – Love is patient, love is kind…
• Ecclesiastes 4:12 – A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
• Matthew 19:6 – What God has joined together, let no one separate.
• Proverbs 18:22 – He who finds a wife finds a good thing…
• Ephesians 5:25 – Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church…
• Proverbs 31:10 – A wife of noble character who can find?

One Final Truth Bomb:

If you’re waiting for your spouse to change first, you’ll wait forever. But if you let God change YOU, He’ll do more in your marriage than you could ever imagine.

This is not about perfection. It’s about persistence in the Spirit. It’s about saying, “We will not let the devil write our story. Our marriage belongs to God.”

PRAYER OVER YOU

Father, I lift up every couple reading this right now. Ignite a fire in their hearts for You and for each other. Tear down every wall of offense, miscommunication, and pride. Replace apathy with hunger, silence with connection, and pain with healing. Let Your Spirit breathe fresh life into their covenant. Let love be fierce, prayer be fervent, and unity be unshakable. In the mighty name of Jesus—Amen.

Bold marriages make bold legacies.
Don’t settle. Fight. Pray. Laugh. Repent. Worship. Serve.
And remember—it’s not you two against each other. It’s you two against the world, with God leading the charge.

Love loud. Forgive fast. Pray like fire.

You were made for this.